I find it really surprising also. But then, not so much. In the parties I’ve had so far, I’ve enjoyed both the sex and simply being with a woman I find attractive, interesting and genuine.
It’s comforting as a man to be able to interact with a beautiful lady in such a way that she trusts you, and that you can both have a conversation which is mutually intriguing. I think a lot of guys simply need that. After working so hard out in the big, competitive world, they just need an all around good person who can care. It’s also nice to know that you can please a woman in other ways than sex, such as gifts, laughter, massage, encouragement, etc.